Say THAT 5 times fast.
I like it, it’s catchy and it feels…purposeful, which means “powerful” in my brain’s native tongue. Your brain has its own unique dialect, but I bet if you asked, it would come up with a similar definition. Aaaand that’s not my point here, sorry. Moving along.
I know, you’re thinking, “WTF is an ‘Approval Apocalypse’?! Sounds dangerous!” Don’t worry, we’re not talking about the end of the world apocalypse. The apocalypse that this arrangement is about is you know, just a watered down, personal apocalypse, NBD.
- Don’t make other people’s wants your needs.
- I found this online and couldn’t find the origin, but it really hit a heart-string:
- We all compare ourselves to others, it’s human nature that’s evolved into a nasty habit. Try not to be one of the “Most” here:
- A good thing to ponder:
- When you feel that feeling of shame and/or doubt creeping up your spine, STOP. Ask yourself if this person’s opinion will matter in a year? 3 years? 5 years? If not, then don’t let them dictate your definition of yourself. I’ve realized and finally admitted to myself – and now you – that yes, I LIKE other people’s approval. And you know what? That’s okay! What I work on is remembering that it is not necessary.
- Before you bungee jump off the cliff of conclusions, STOP. Ask yourself how YOU really feel about whatever – or whoever – it is that’s at the bottom of that jump. This takes A LOT of repetition, so even though I found it irritating and thought of it as a waste of time for some of the smaller decisions, I realize now that those little decisions that I did this little “pause” for are why I took the time for the bigger ones ever since.
- Trust yourself.
- At first I just thought this was funny, so I kept it pinned up by my computer. Now I realize that seeing it everyday has helped my brain to now make it a factor included in my endless considerations each day and focus on what’s actually important to ME and not what might garner other people’s approval.
- Take some time – as much as you need – and write down the names of the people you love, the people who touch your life on a daily basis, people who know your name and make an effort to be in your life. This list will evolve over time, of course, but I think keeping it is multi-purposeful, it tells you who pays attention to you and who you should pay attention to.
This is a HUGE undertaking and it’s not going to be easy for most of us, but if you decide to do it, I’m absolutely certain it’ll be worth it. And I’m even more sure that you’re worth it.
Take care of yourselves!
Oh, wait! I almost forgot one of my favorites, it’s something my dad used to say and I find it both hilarious AND helpful to remember!