If you’re in a relationship, chances are pretty solid that you have and will again argue with your significant other (or others?) at some point. In fact, I worry more about those couples who don’t argue because, I mean, c’mon…NEVER? I immediately assume that one or both of them is in denial or lying about how they truly feel (think Julia Roberts and her “favorite eggs” in Runaway Bride). Of course, I’m sure that’s not the case for ALL such couples, but, as one of my favorite tunes as a teenager would suggest, a non-arguing EVER couple falls in the category of — “Things that make you go hmmmmm…”
But I digress, back to the point. Arguing is nothing to be ashamed of. I mean, let’s be real here, you are an individual as is the person (or persons) in the relationship with you. I’m assuming you didn’t grow up together in the same house (if you did, still no judgment, but be careful about procreation if you’ve got bloodline overlapping), so you were raised differently, have had different life experiences and are just different. It’s what attracts us to another person.The only cause for shame as far as arguing is concerned are what I call “asshole moves.” What are those, you ask? Well, let me start by sharing one of my favorite things I ever heard my dad say, which is, “God already gave me an asshole, I don’t need another one.” Asshole Moves are things that are done in spite and with the intent to hurt someone else. If you catch yourself making one, you should be ashamed. There’s already a whole world full of hate and moronic leaders of free countries and, as my dad would say, we all have assholes and nobody (err, unless it’s for medical reasons, of course) needs another one.
I’ve put together my very first Infographic which gives a colorful rendering of my Ten Commandments of Arguing or, as I’ve dubbedit, “How to Argue with your Partner Successfully.” And by ‘successfully,’ I mean without either or both of you ending up in the hospital or single again. These are guidelines that I’ve adopted over the years, through the hard-won wisdom of trial and error. I mean, I wouldn’t say that I’m argumentative or confrontational, but when my fuse has been lit and isn’t properly doused before it hits the TNT…let’s just say I’m not shy. I’ve been guilty of violating all of the guidelines on numerous occasions in my younger days, but as we all (hopefully) do with time, I’ve come to see the wisdom in sprinkling a little maturity fairy dust on myself now and again.
Now, enough with my yammering. On with the Infograph! Please enjoy 🙂