I’m telling myself that this is totally not cheat-posting because I wrote it! Okay, yes, I wrote the original version a couple months ago, but I did adjust it for more general viewing, so that totally counts.
Anyway, now that I’ve unnecessarily justified this post to myself, a little intro for you, the innocent bystander to my self-chastising.
In response to a prompt during a little challenge I took to get me in the habit of writing more consistently, I pulled a prompt that said to talk about the lessons I want my children to learn – sounds awesome, right? It is! Only tiny little issue is that yo no tengo piquito mamis or papis. Nope, no kiddos from this womb. BUT, Sweet Baby Jesus, I was blessed with a plethora of children I love, 24 of which are children of my siblings, so I thought up a list of “must haves” for their Life Lessons Collection, Collector’s Edition.
These are timeless reminders that I think all of us can benefit from remembering. I hope you find a spark of something wonderful somewhere in this post. Even more awesome it would be for you to share a lesson or tell us which lesson you especially connected with. There was a different intro, but you can see the original post here, if you’re interested. Otherwise, please, continue 🙂
Life is a series of roller-coasters, filled with ups, downs, screams, laughter, panic, joy, and everything else that falls between “alive” and “dead.” I wish I could be there to over-analyze things for you, then instruct you to take the one I ultimately deem the most beneficial and least harmful, but bad news is: I can’t. Good news? You don’t need me to.
I believe in you and I know that you can do ANYTHING you set your mind AND your will to. That said, I’ll always, ALWAYS never be too busy for you, if you need me. Unless I’m dead, then you’ll have to find someone to Skype me in psychic-style. Just in case I’m incognito in my R.I.P. mode, here are a bunch of the most important lessons that I’ve learned and want you to know. Oh, before I get into that, I almost forgot:
I love you very much and I’ll always be proud of you.
This is not an option. I’ll never tell you who or what you have to think or consider as your higher power because that is a personal decision. Whatever higher power you connect with, KEEP CONNECTED. Keep your relationship with your Divine Entity strong and positive. Always remember that everything happens for a reason and even when it doesn’t feel like it, I guarantee you that your Divine Power has only your best interests in mind. Remember that and hold on to your faith no matter what happens and it will guide you to where you need to be. Open your heart and listen.
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
Don’t give up just because you had a little setback or you’ve hit a plateau or you freaked out and burned your eyebrow off with a malfunctioning Bunsen burner (long story). Failure is part of the process. Every struggle, problem, situation, Bunsen burner incident, etc. is an OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN. If you look at it that way, you never lose; you either win or you learn. If you choose not to try again & you just give up, that’s just like cheating and THAT is when you lose. You can’t cheat life.
There’ll be so many times throughout your life that it’ll be extremely super challenging to remember AND believe that most things are ‘small stuff’. Here’s the secret to figuring that out:
EVERYTHING BUT YOUR LIFE and THAT OF YOUR LOVED ONES is SMALL STUFF. Period.
Everything else can be replaced.
Peer pressure is REAL and it’s a bitch. It’s so tempting and easy to follow the crowd. You know what else it is? LAZY. And IGNORANT. And I KNOW you are neither of those nasty things. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in and if people don’t like you, that’s THEIR problem, refer to #3 above.
NEVER, EVER, I DON’T CARE WHAT OR WHO IS INVOLVED – I better not EVER find out that you were part of or didn’t try to stop some bullshit bullying. Bullying IS FOR COWARDS. We’re all equal, but we all make different choices. Picking on someone or harassing them for kicks or because everyone else does is absolutely unexcuseable. Listen to the ostentatious Rev. Jesse Jackson, just this once, who says:
“Never look down on anyone, unless you’re helping them up.”
Do the right thing even when no one is watching, and without expecting a standing ovation. Do the right thing even when everyone else isn’t. Because it’s the right thing to do.
SIDENOTE: I am so serious about this one. If I ever find out that you took part in or didn’t try to stop others from bullying someone else, you will lose SO MANY cool points with me.
Never stop believing in yourself and that you have the power to make your dreams come true. You are the master of your own destiny. Don’t let other people convince you that the limits they’ve placed on themselves have anything to do with you. If you believe in yourself and your dream, there is NOTHING that you can’t do.
Sir Winston Churchill is my very favorite politician of all time (read this) and there are many of his quotes that mean something to me. One of those, one that I always keep in the pocket of my heart is:
“Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision.”
Everything in life is a choice. Choose well and be sure you can be proud of your choice.
I can’t say it better than this:
HAHAHAHA!! What some people never realize is that this doesn’t mean just clean underwear. When I tell you this, I mean that you should always put your best foot forward and give it your all because you never know if you’ll get another chance.
I mean it. I’ll always, ALWAYS love you. No matter what, unconditionally. I may be mad at you or irritated with you, but that’s just a mood. Nothing could ever change my love for you. Even if you think no one else does or no one can, I am not no one, I’m your family and I’ll always keep a light on for you.
Aaaand that’s it. Well, I’ll leave you with some of Bob Dylan’s finest work as my wish for you.
Now beat it, go save the world or something.
XOXO – Your Biggest Fan